Parenthood

The reason why Mums need to Create More Space in their live

Here is the number one reason why Mums need to Create More Space in their lives.

From the moment you wake up, to the morning you go to sleep you have nothing but demands on your attention.

This morning I paused for a second and what I heard was this:

My Son asking me over and over to look at what he was doing (dropping coins down a toilet roll)

My daughter was crying as she didn’t have any honey on her yogurt, asked for more and then cried as she had honey on her yogurt.

My cat was crying as he wanted more food.

My phone was flashing at me as I had so many social media notifications.

While all this is going on I am trying to remember which day it is and what I need to pack… does Oliver need a punchbag, is it sports day, do I need to pack a £1 coin.. is there any paperwork which is due… so my mind is on supercharge speed…

But here is the thing… over all of this my brain is pulling me towards wanting to be in my daydream. Trying to figure out how I am going to do all of this so when Oliver asked me for the 5th time to look at the toilet roll I had to compose myself and remember that I really needed to be present and not up in my dreams (as fun as they are at the moment)

I feel lucky that I have these dreams to pull me out of my head for a while as I go about the mundanity (is this a word?!) of packing lunches and filling in forms… it makes it all so much more manageable as I know that sooner or later I will be living this dream and this genuinely excites me.

And this is why I think all Mum’s need to make space in their lives to create a dream so exciting that it takes them away when they most need it and then to start planning it out during those moments when you feel like running out of the door stark naked screaming “I am a Mummy… get me out of here”

If all we have to look forward to for the next 18 years is constant noise and demands (please tell me it gets better sooner than this) then no wonder so many of us suffer from PND and anxiety.

No wonder so many of us struggle to stay positive in the day when your dar starts on such an intensive demanding way.

No wonder so many of us seem so lost in what it is we really want out of life as all we can see are toilet rolls and bowls of uneaten yogurt and honey.

So if you are reading this and are feeling frazzled..please take a moment to pause. Even if it is to laugh at the absurdity that we are meant to stay sane through all of this…

With love
Victoria